YOUR partner spoils you with presents and tells you they love you all the time.
While you may think them a great catch, it could be a hint your relationship is sinking.
Our sex and relationships expert reveals ten signs your relationship is in troubleCredit: Shutterstock
A recent study revealed signs a couple are on the rocks can be so subtle that even they may not notice.
US research at the University of Texas found language used by lovers when talking about their relationship got more personal and informal as a break-up drew close.
In particular, they said “I” and “we” more.
Here, Sex And Relationships Contributing Editor Georgette Culley reveals unexpected clues your relationship is in trouble – and how to fix it.
Four in ten love rats have a boosted libido because of the thrill of the affair
WE presume our partner stops wanting sex when they are getting it elsewhere — but it is actually the opposite that is true.
A recent survey revealed four in ten love rats have more sex with their long-term partner because the thrill of the affair boosts their libido.
Next time they try to instigate a spontaneous session, put them on the spot — ask where their new energy has come from and see how they react.
If your partner suddenly lavishes you with gifts, they could be feeling guilty
IF your partner is suddenly lavishing expensive gifts on you for no reason, it may not be quite what it seems.
They could be doing this because they are busy cheating and are trying to mask their guilt.
By all means accept the gifts — after all, if they are doing the dirty, you want to rinse them for all they have got — but keep your wits about you and do a spot of digging on the side.
Conflict is a normal sign of a healthy relationship
BELIEVING your partner and ignoring flaws could lead to disappointment.
Adolescent love is often built on fantasy and couples who never argue and bottle things up usually explode later. Mature love, on the other hand, is realistic and sustainable.
A meaningful relationship has conflict, and fighting is a normal sign of a healthy relationship.
When problems are out in the open you can work through them as a team.
Over-the-top public displays of affection scream insecurity
WATCH out for that nauseating “perfect” couple at the party who are constantly all over each other.
You might want to scream: “Get a room!” But what they need is a relationship counsellor.
Over-the-top public displays of affection scream insecurity. If people are content, they have nothing to prove and are confident to “work” a room.
Partners who stick to your side like glue are usually about to come unstuck.
When someone is truly over their ex, they won’t feel the need to bad-mouth them
YOU might be pleased your partner does not speak fondly of their ex — but this can be a red flag.
If your lover gets angry when discussing them, there may still be passion there and they could be in love.
Watch out for remarks like, “I hate my ex, she’s crazy.” No, he is crazy about her.
When someone is truly over an ex, they will not talk badly about them because they do not care enough to get riled.
Neediness can look like affection, but it’s much more sinister
IS your partner over-affectionate — telling you they love you every five seconds, when they rarely dropped the L-word in the past?
Do they want constant cuddles, and reassurance of your devotion?
While they may just be suffering from a serious bout of neediness, it could be something more sinister.
If a partner feels guilty, they may over-compensate for this and get all clingy because they are scared the relationship will unravel.
Take note if your partner always says the right thing but never acts on it
YOUR relationship is perfect — except it is not going anywhere.
Every time you ask your partner if they want marriage or kids, they give you all the right answers but never act on it.
When you ask them if they see you in their future, they are really sweet and reassuring toward you.
But watch out — they may be killing you with kindness. Do not wait about for anyone, no matter how nice they are to you.
Slow-burner relationships are likely to last longer
HAVE you been swept away in a whirlwind relationship?
While you may get a fairytale ending, it could also be heading for heartbreak.
If your partner is all over you like a heat-seeking missile, it may be because they are desperately trying to get over their ex. Opt for a slow-burner instead and take your time to really get to know someone.
This way, your flame will be less likely to go out.
Couples who over-share online are trying to convince themselves they’re happy
ARE you constantly flooding your Instagram feed with loved-up posts about you and your other half?
Studies show partners who over-share about their relationship are not satisfied and are trying to convince themselves — and the world — they are happy.
Content couples do not feel the need to post soppy snaps.
If you are feeling at all insecure about your relationship, best take the conversation offline.
If your other half suddenly accuses you of cheating, it could be because they’re doing exactly that
IF your partner is busy playing away, you might think they would not be jealous or interested in what you are up to.
But in some cases, the opposite is true.
When someone is having an affair they can get paranoid and judge their partner by their own shady standards.
So if your other half is suddenly accusing you of cheating, it may actually be because they are busy doing exactly that.
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