here’s not much else to do this year… (Picture: Getty Images/iStockphoto)
Valentine’s Day is known for splitting the crowd, with many bashing the superficial consumerism and pressure to look like you’re in a blindingly happy relationship.
But with very, very little to do this winter, this Valentine’s Day could present the perfect excuse for you and your partner to make a concerted effort to make your sex a bit more sexy.
After all, sex isn’t just about basic penetration any more than love is just about buying each other roses and chocolate.
Kate Moyle, sex and relationship expert for Lelo says: ‘Many people describe a sense of connection or feeling more intimate with their partner when sexual experiences involve more communication through verbal and non-verbals forms such as eye-contact, sexual talk or feeling in sync with one another.
‘These ways of being together are innately human, and can take us to a place of mutual vulnerability, sharing and feeling seen with and by our partner which can up the intensity of sexual experiences.’
If you want to try something new this Valentine’s Day, here are some sex positions Kate recommends trying on this notoriously romantic day.
The Sweet Nothings position is a great one for upping the intimacy factor.
‘One partner sits on a chair, or on the edge of a bed or sofa, with the other is seated on their lap facing them,’ Kate says.
‘This is the perfect position for telling each other about how you are feeling which can either be face to face or side by side directly into each other’s ears.
‘For many partners hearing how turned on their partner is and how much they are enjoying it, either by words or their change in breathing, can be a huge desire booster.’
The Love Seat
Like the idea of fitting as many neck kisses in as possible? Try The Love Seat.
Kate says this one is ‘a seated spooning position,’ adding: ‘The bottom partner sits on the floor with their arms behind them for support and the other lowers themselves onto them; if you want your hands free then have the bottom partner sitting against a wall or the side of a bed or sofa for support.
‘This is a great position for kissing playing a key role.’
Sometimes an act as simple as a gentle touch can be all you need to take things up a notch.
Kate says: ‘Stand or lie facing each other and take your partner’s hands and place them on your body where you want them to touch you. Put your hand on top of theirs and guide their touch exactly how you want it.
‘Take turns in focusing on each other, allowing the receiving touch partner to lead the other.’
An oldie but a goodie, spooning during sex is just the right mixture of lazy and luxurious.
Kate describes it as: ‘A classic sex position, but a classic for a reason.
‘Spooning allows slow sensual sex with a lot of body to body contact. It can work for all couples using a strap on, sex toys or as a non-penetrative position with the behind partner having free hands to tease and pleasure their valentine.’
Kate says this you can choose penetrative or non-penetrative variations of the Love Knot, adding: ‘You can try it using a sex toy or strap on, or hold the position as an embrace, hold eye-contact, or synchronise your breathing.
‘As a position, it’s very close and connecting, so you can then take it in whatever direction feels right for both of you.
‘Both partners sit cross-legged facing each other with the top partner having their legs wrapped around the other fully, so they are encircled.’
People who like a bit of teasing will probably be very keen on the Time Bomb.
‘Lie or stand facing each other so that you are holding each other’s gaze,’ Kate instructs. ‘Set an alarm clock for 15 minutes, and touch each other’s body and face whilst avoiding the areas of the body normally touched in the build up to sex such as the genitals or breasts.
‘Tease each other and explore different types of touch and notice each other’s breathing change as they build up desire and arousal, and then when the alarm clock goes off take it wherever you please.’
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