DATING can be daunting and it’s difficult to know the difference between a healthy relationship and a relationship that’s about to fail.
Whether you’re in a new relationship or have been with your significant other for a long time, there are a few red flags that you shouldn’t ignore.
A relationship expert reveals the seven red flags to never ignore when datingCredit: Getty
James Thomas, a relationship expert from Condoms.uk, has revealed the 7 red flags you shouldn’t ignore when dating.
Love bombing is a manipulation tactic whereby a new partner treats the victim with excessive warmth and affection.
Not to be confused with the healthy ‘honeymoon phase’ of a new relationship, love bombing usually involves deceit and dishonesty to win that person’s trust and have control over them.
If your date or partner is giving you an exaggerated amount of praise and adoration that feels unnatural – it probably is!
In the early stages of a relationship, take things slowly and allow trust to build.
Be on the lookout for if they are treating you kindly only when they want to gain something from you.
Although it’s nice to be overloaded with compliments, be wary if it feels too much.
Jealousy can cause lots of issues in relationships.
It makes people act in irrational ways – they think the worst of their partners and find something wrong even when things are going well with them.
This can seriously affect their relationship and can eat into self-esteem.
If your partner hates when you spend time with your friends, colleagues, or family, this could be stemming from jealousy and their need to control you.
If your partner is exhibiting any of these behaviours, watch out!
A superiority complex is a belief that your abilities or accomplishments are somehow dramatically better than other people’s.
A person suffering from this delusion will show arrogant, haughty, disdainful, or patronizing behaviour.
If your date or partner makes you feel stupid or belittles you for your interests, this should be a major red flag.
Superiority complexes are common in narcissists who have an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves.
They find this self-image of themselves to be of utmost importance and anything that might destroy it must be filtered out, which is why they might be putting you down!
You don’t deserve to be put down, so don’t let this get to you!
If your love interest is secretive and refuses to make the relationship public to family and friends, this should be considered a red flag.
Secrecy implies they are hiding something, or they don’t want you to know something that would make you think less of them.
Either way, you deserve to be with a partner who is open and communicative, who introduces you to their extended circle.
We all want to be posted to our man’s Insta, right?!
Affairs, cheating, infidelity–whatever you want to call it– have the power to ruin many relationships.
It’s a threat that lurks in any relationship, but what diminishes that threat is a mutual trust, love, and reassurance.
If your partner has had a history of cheating or you sense they have a wandering eye, it can make more time for trust to build and potentially lead to feelings of insecurity.
Whilst the saying ‘once a cheat, always a cheat’ is debatable, you should certainly lead with caution and take any signs of unfaithfulness as a red flag.
No-one likes a cheater do they?
INCOMPATIBLE SEX DRIVES
There is no right or wrong amount of sex to have.
However, it is important you and your partner have a similar libido or know how to navigate the differences.
Sex is a natural part of a relationship and is more important to others than for some.
Bruised egos, emotional pressure and upset are common reactions if one person is constantly initiating sex, but the same energy is not being reciprocated.
If you are truly incompatible with your sexual needs and desires, consider this a red flag.
After all, it’s going to cause serious tension between you and your partner if your sex drives are incompatible.
ZERO WORK ETHIC
Everyone moves at a different pace in life, and we are all on our personal timelines.
However, attitude makes all the difference, so if a person is exhibiting zero work ethic, drive or motivation to pursue what they want to do, this can be incredibly unattractive.
Decipher whether they are behind because they are having a justifiable personal setback, or whether it is part of their personality to expect you to make big sacrifices to accommodate their lifestyle habits.
If it is the latter, then consider this a red flag and decide whether you want to be totally responsible for another person’s reality.
You want your partner to be motivated, right?!
Look out for secrecy, unfaithfulness and incompatible sex drivesCredit: Getty