KEEPING quiet between the sheets is the key to great sex, says Hayley Prince, 34, who lives with rugby coach husband Ben, 35, in Rotherham, South Yorks.
Hayley, who has three children with Ben and four from a previous relationship, says: “If I screamed and moaned during sex Ben would think he was doing something seriously wrong and that I was pretending to enjoy it.
Hayley Prince, with husband Ben, says ‘Pleasure should feel natural, not forced and to experience it properly, being vocal isn’t necessary’Credit: News Group Newspapers Ltd
“That would be a complete turn off for both of us.
“Making noises comes across as fake and I think women only do it to please their partner rather than it being enjoyable for them. It’s false.
“Pleasure should feel natural, not forced and to experience it properly, being vocal isn’t necessary.
“It’s about being in tune with your body, not your vocal cords.
“I liken the feeling I get when I orgasm to eating a nice piece of cake.
“I feel satisfied, but the loudest noise I make is a murmur.
“It’s the same for Ben, which is just enough to show each other we’re enjoying ourselves.
“Before I met Ben, I used dating apps and one man who messaged me asked me if I’d scream his name during sex which instantly put me off.
“Another man I dated actually growled when he had an orgasm which I found hilarious.
“Even if I wanted to be noisier – and I definitely don’t – having sex when there’s seven children in the house makes it impossible.”
Ben says: “I would be very suspicious if Hayley suddenly started moaning and groaning during sex.
“It isn’t necessary and I would ask her why she was forcing enjoyment.”
MUM-to-be Kirsty Brown, 28, lives in Brighton with long-term partner, festival caterer Will Murdoch, 31.
They claim being noisy adds to the intensity of their orgasms.
Kirsty Brown, with partner Will Murdoch, says ‘Being loud when I climax makes me feel the pleasure more and it also shows Will that I’m really enjoying myself’
Kirsty says: “I met Will in September 2019 and we have always enjoyed being loud when making love because, for us, it’s natural.
“Being loud when I climax makes me feel the pleasure more and it also shows Will that I’m really enjoying myself. Will loves that I am noisy too.
“I think us women can be quiet when we orgasm if we have to be.
However, to me, it is a natural and human response to be loud when you’re enjoying something.
“If you are consciously being quiet because you’re scared of disturbing the neighbours then that affects your orgasm and doesn’t allow for full enjoyment.
“I believe it takes a great partnership with open communication to fully understand your true orgasm potential.
“We’re a sex-positive couple and giving each other feedback by being loud is important.
“If my partner was quiet when they climaxed, I’d think: ‘Why are you in your head?’ or I’d wonder if I was doing something wrong and then that would limit my pleasure.
“And if I were silent when I orgasmed he’d likely think I wasn’t enjoying myself.
“I’m a singer, dancer and fire performer and I know deep breathing helps bring in more oxygen to the body and when you yell in the bedroom the diaphragm opens more, which means more air gets into your system.
“That stimulates blood flow and in my case it makes my orgasms better.
“I’m five months pregnant and we still try to make love at least four times or more a week.
“To me, making noise when I orgasm is healthy.”
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