GOOD Morning Britain viewers choked on their cuppas earlier this week when Gary Numan’s spouse Gemma O’Neill admitted she’d as soon as given the musician a “pity s**g”.
Because the couple chatted about their 23-year marriage and Gary’s profession, the dialog turned to his monetary woes and the way Gemma, 52, as soon as a member of Numan’s fanclub, needed to assist the household.
Man Numan’s spouse admitted she gave him a pity s**g leaving GMB viewers shockedCredit score: Rex Options
Gary, 62, chimed in, “I don’t need pity!”, to which Gemma replied: “Well you got a pity s**g.”
She then took again her jokey remark however social media had already gone into meltdown – and it wasn’t even 9am.
After Gemma’s confession, two Fabulous writers give their views on pity intercourse.
Two Fabulous writers give their views on pity intercourseCredit score: Getty Pictures – Getty
I SPAT out my cornflakes laughing once I heard Gemma inform GMB she’d given him a “pity s**g”.
The pity s**g is such a splendidly British idea — a type of copulation backhanded praise.
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The sexiest type of altruism.
Being a pity s**gger makes you a real Queen of Hearts, a type of Florence Nightingale of orgasms. Nonetheless, as a lot as I feel the act is gorgeous in principle, I’ve by no means truly given one.
Perhaps I’m simply too egocentric in mattress? However I don’t like the thought of sleeping with somebody who would possibly break down and cry afterwards.
Apparently, I’m an exception amongst my pals. “I’ve had a great deal of pity s**gs — they’re grim,” one pal tells me.
Katie can not consider an even bigger turn-off than having intercourse with somebody as a result of she feels sorry for themCredit score: Getty Pictures – Getty
“The key is you will need to by no means allow them to know,” one other pal suggests.
My married pals inform me they dole them out on a regular basis to their husbands.
“I’ve been giving my different half pity s**gs for the final 20 years,” one complains.
“The one factor worse than having a pity s**g is marrying them,” one other provides.
Name me old style however I’ve solely ever had intercourse as a result of I fancied somebody and I needed it
I’m starting to surprise if the very fact I don’t provide up these favours is why I can by no means maintain down a relationship.
Nonetheless, I can not consider an even bigger turn-off than having intercourse with somebody as a result of I really feel sorry for them (even when that somebody did write basic Seventies hit Vehicles).
Perhaps the true purpose I don’t give pity s**gs is that I’m not adequate in mattress. I can consider higher methods to cheer somebody up — like shopping for them a pint or baking them a cake. However I’ve by no means s**gged somebody to cheer them up, not to mention as a result of I pity them.
Name me old style however I’ve solely ever had intercourse as a result of I fancied somebody and I needed it.
The one pity intercourse I feel I’ve even come near is a self-pity s**g once I’ve been feeling depressed and I’ve had intercourse with somebody as a result of I’m feeling sorry for myself.
“I AM so bored” is what goes via my thoughts as I’ve intercourse with a person (let’s name him John) I’ve been courting for some time.
It was a number of years in the past, and I knew it was going to be dangerous — however he was such a pleasant man and I felt sorry for him, so we did it anyway.
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That is the very definition of a pity s**g. In actual fact, I’d go as far as to say that the 2 weeks we dated have been a pity relationship on my half. John wasn’t the worst pity s**g of all although — that title goes to somebody we’ll name Patrick.
It began off effectively. He was a former colleague and I’d all the time thought he was engaging.
So after we bumped into one another in a bar a number of years in the past, I went for it. 5 minutes in and he’s on prime of me and begins crying.
It seems Patrick had damaged up along with his girlfriend that very same week and was heartbroken.
The 2 weeks we dated have been a pity relationship on my halfCredit score: Getty Pictures – Getty
So I cuddled him for one more half an hour and let him inform me all about his damaged romance. So maybe it was much less of a pity s**g and extra of a pity cuddle? Not like Gary Numan’s spouse Gemma, nonetheless, I’ve by no means given a long-term accomplice a pity s**g.
My exes and I have been very vocal about what we needed in mattress and I’ve a excessive intercourse drive — however I’ve undoubtedly given pity pleasure in different sexual methods which don’t require me to be as turned on.
As an entire, it appears that evidently girls are extra inclined to provide out these bed room favours.
I requested my feminine pals if they’d ever finished it and received a convincing “sure” — whereas most of my male pals stated “any s**g is an effective s**g”.
As for whether or not I’ve ever been a pity s**g myself, the reply is sure, type of.
It was with a person in New York, who needed to sleep with me, and did.
However he was too drained for spherical two, until I received on prime.
I did, in the long run — however he wasn’t very enthusiastic so there was no satisfaction in it for me.
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