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Nothing should come between you and your partner. Unfortunately, many people stand in their own way.
30 percent of men suffer from premature ejaculation. Some people ejaculate within two minutes of initiating sex. Though they have a full orgasm, their partners don’t experience the pleasure that they should.
Intimacy relies on the ability to last longer during sex. Thankfully, there is more than one way to last longer.
What stretches and positions can you practice? What medications help delay orgasm? How can a therapist help you perform better?
Answer these questions and you can have satisfying experiences with your partner in no time. Here is your quick guide.
Strengthen Your Muscles
The pubococcygeal (PC) muscles form the floor of your pelvis. They help with thrusting and blood flow during sex. Kegel exercises target the PC muscles, helping people with lasting longer.
Stand in front of a mirror with your pelvis exposed. Use your muscles to lift up your testicles without moving your hands or feet.
Hold your position for ten seconds, then release. Repeat ten times.
Lunges build strength in the pelvis, hips, and thighs. Stand up straight, then put one foot in front of yourself.
Step forward until your front knee forms a right angle without moving beyond your toes. Your back knee should be parallel to the ground. Hold for a second, then lift your front leg up and repeat.
If you have trouble standing up, you can perform planks. Make a pushup position and put your elbows flat against the floor.
Using your abdominal muscles, keep your torso straight without bending your body. Hold for ten seconds, then rest on the floor. As you build core strength, hold for longer periods of time.
Try Out Different Positions
Positions that cause deep penetration can cause someone to ejaculate sooner. If you like them, you can keep performing them.
But try out a few different positions, taking a break between each one. This will give time for you to calm down, which will lengthen the experience.
You should try out positions that require less penetration. If you or your partner has a clitoris, you can try the coital alignment technique (CAT).
One partner lies on their back with their legs extended. The other slides on top so their chest aligns with the bottom partner’s shoulders.
The top partner rests their weight on the bottom partner, then inserts their tip into their partner’s vulva. They rock up and down, allowing the shaft to rub against the clitoris. Go slowly and see what happens.
Take a Medication
There are a few medications that may help you last longer. Paroxetine (Paxil) is a medication designed to treat depression and anxiety. But it can delay orgasm, especially in those with depression.
Tramadol is an analgesic that relieves moderate chronic pain. It has the side effect of delaying ejaculation. You cannot take tramadol and paroxetine at the same time, so pick one or the other.
Viagra helps supply blood flow to the penis. This can help a person last longer, but it can also lead to them ejaculating sooner. Read about its side effects before purchasing.
Many people ask, “Do benzocaine wipes for premature ejaculation work?” They may work.
You need to wipe the entire penis, targeting the head. The wipe can cause a numbing sensation that some people find uncomfortable.
Before you pick a medication, you should talk to your doctor about it. Keep in mind that delayed orgasm is one of many side effects of paroxetine and tramadol. You may suffer from drowsiness and mood swings as well, which can affect your performance.
Talk to a Therapist
A sex therapist is a therapist who specializes in offering sex advice. Schedule an appointment with one. You can bring your partner, or you can go alone.
Talk to them about what is happening and what concerns you have. The therapist may recommend a homework exercise for you.
You may need to practice communicating with your partner. Both of you can have a conversation on what you need to do to perform in bed. This can resolve the uncertainty that may impede your performance.
You can develop mindfulness techniques. While you are having an intimate moment, you focus on your bodily sensations. This can help make the moment last longer.
You can also read or watch a sex guide. You can get advice from experts on how to last longer during sex.
Focus On Other Things
Focus on one’s own performance can make sex difficult. When you are being intimate, try focusing on your partner’s needs.
If they are having trouble reaching orgasm, help them out. Perform oral sex on them. Engage in erotic massaging.
Kiss and snuggle with your partner instead of penetrating them. Talk to them and tell them how well they are doing.
If you can’t stop thinking about orgasm, masturbate. It will get the orgasm out of your system so you can focus on helping your partner.
How You Can Last Longer During Sex
Several methods can help you last longer during sex. Try improving your pelvic and core muscles through lunges and planks. Experiment with a few different positions, taking a break between each one.
Consider taking a medication. If that’s not ideal, go to a sex therapist. Try communicating with your partner and experimenting with mindfulness.
At a minimum, focus on things besides orgasm. Think about your partner’s needs to get aroused. Give them oral sex and snuggle and kiss them.
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