In an emotional and candid interview with Oprah Winfrey, the Duke and Duchess of Sussex have opened up about their lives and the difficulties they faced. Some are already calling the interview ‘devastating’ for the British Royal Family, as Harry and Meghan held nothing back during the two-hour CBS primetime special.
There was bombshell after bombshell in the interview, aired on Sunday. Meghan Markle revealed that she had suicidal thoughts when she was 5 months pregnant, opened up about the alleged racism within the Royal Family, and how Kate Middleton once made her cry instead of the other way around. Meanwhile, Harry said that he has now been financially cut off by his family after they distanced themselves from ‘The Firm.’
In the midst of the emotional storm, accusations, and pain there was one patch of calm, however. A ray of good news that nearly everyone could celebrate. The couple revealed their baby, due in the summer, is going to be a girl.
There were two ceremonies, not one, like we were led to believe. Harry and Meghan wanted a private ceremony just for the two of them before the public event.
“This spectacle is for the world, but we want our union between us,” Meghan told Oprah during the two-hour interview. The vows that the couple have framed in their home are from the private backyard ceremony between them and the Archbishop of Canterbury.
“With the added pressure of, racism and social media. My biggest concern was history repeating itself. I’ve said that before on numerous occasions, very publicly. And what I was seeing was history repeating itself, but more, perhaps, or definitely far more dangerous, because then you add race in, and you add social media in. And when I’m talking about history repeating itself, I’m talking about my mother.”
“I think she would feel very angry with how this has panned out. And very sad,” Harry said.
“The reverse happened, and I don’t say that to be disparaging to anyone because it was a really hard week of the wedding and she was upset about something,” Meghan told Oprah. The issue was over the flower girl dresses — Meghan says Kate then apologized, and Meghan accepted her apology.
Meghan told Oprah that there were times when she had suicidal thoughts because life as a British royal was so isolating and lonely. “I just didn’t want to be alive anymore,” she told Oprah.
The Duchess mentioned that one member of the Royal Family had concerns about how ‘dark’ her son Archie’s skin would be. The revelations shocked people, ordinary and celebrity alike.
American model Chrissy Teigen and Meghan’s on-screen husband Patrick J. Adams (aka Mike Ross from ‘Suits’) were among those who declared their public support for the couple and criticized the media and the royals for their treatment of the Duchess.
“They really seemed to want a narrative of a hero and a villain.”
“It’s not our decision to make,” Meghan said, speaking about how royal protocol was changed so that Archie would not become a prince.
“In those months, when I was pregnant, all around this same time, we had in tandem the conversation of he won’t be given security, he won’t be given a title…and also concerns and conversations about how dark his skin will be when he’s born,” said Meghan. “That was relayed to me from Harry, that was from conversations that family had with him. It was really hard to see those as compartmentalized conversations.”
Meghan did not say which members of the royal family said these things. “That conversation I am never going to share,” Harry later added in the interview.
Despite the seemingly overwhelming support, not everyone is happy with how the interview turned out. The British tabloids, ever the thorn in Harry and Meghan’s sides, have denounced the interview as ‘self-serving’ and suggested that they’re curating and cultivating a certain public image for personal gain. The couple has made deals with Netflix and Spotify after being financially cut off.
Meanwhile, internet users from all walks of life are fighting a heated battle in the comment sections of news media outlets.
For most, the revelations confirmed their suspicions about the dark side of the Royal Family and they rushed to show their support for Harry and Meghan. Others, however, pointed out that the Duke and Duchess of Sussex were in no position to complain, as they were (and still are) far more privileged than, well, pretty much anyone on Earth.
“I just didn’t see a solution. I would sit up at night and I was just like I don’t understand how all this is being churned out,” she said of the negative press attention she received.
“I was really ashamed to say it at the time, and ashamed to have to admit it to Harry, because I know how much loss he’s suffered — but I knew that if I didn’t say it, that I would do it,” she continued. “I just didn’t want to be alive anymore and that was a very clear and real and frightening constant thought.”
“Not only was I not being protected, but they were willing to lie to protect other members of the family — but they weren’t willing to tell the truth to protect me and my husband.”
“Two is it,” Harry said, saying that they don’t plan to have anymore kids.
Members of any royal family can seem so illustrious, charming, and powerful that people forget that they’re human beings with very human problems. And no family—royal or ordinary—is ‘perfect.’ But with the glitz, the glamor, and the prestigious upbringing, some of us assume that members of the aristocracy are beyond reproach.
Expectations should be high for royalty, absolutely. However, like with putting anyone on a pedestal, we’re bound to end up disappointed if we idolize them through illusions instead of seeing them grounded in reality like we are.
What did you think of the interview, dear Pandas? Did any of the revelations shock you? What is your opinion about the Royal family and about Harry and Meghan? Share your thoughts in the comment section below and just remember—we’re better than the British tabloids, so let’s keep it civil.
“Touching back on what you asked on what my mum would think of this, I think she saw it coming,” he said. “And I certainly felt her presence throughout this whole process.”
“There’s a lot of hurt that’s happened,” he said — Charles didn’t even take Harry’s calls for a time. When asked to define his relationship with Will right now, he said, “The relationship is space.”
They practiced curtseying outside before she met Harry’s grandmother. Meghan described their first meeting as, “Lovely and easy — and thank god I hadn’t known a lot about the family, thank god I hadn’t researched, I would have been so in my head about it.”
“I had been asking the institution for help for quite a long time,” Meghan told Oprah. However, they weren’t willing to “go on the record and negate” bad stories for her — even though they would do the same for “the most ridiculous story” for others.
The “constant barrage” from the press was also integral.
“I wouldn’t have been able to, I, myself was trapped,” he said, “Trapped within the system, like the rest of my family are […]. They don’t get to leave.”
“I’ve never looked up my husband online, I just didn’t feel a need to because everything I feel I needed to know he was sharing with me.”
“I’ve never blindsided my grandmother, I have too much respect for her,” Harry told Oprah. He says that he told the Queen numerous times about their upcoming announcement.
Harry spoke of an “invisible contract” between the tabloids and the royal family, where the tabloids would be given full access in exchange for positive coverage.
“From my perspective, all I needed was enough money to be able to pay for security, to keep my family safe,” Harry told Oprah.
“That’s what we do, being able to default to not having to every moment go, ‘Is that appropriate?'” Meghan told Oprah.
“Can you imagine how little sense that makes?” she told Oprah. “I left everything because I love him.”