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It’s all in the eyes (Picture: Getty Images)
To paraphrase a great song, sometimes you can say it best by saying nothing at all.
However, non-verbal communication can be pretty hard when half your face is covered.
Understandably, a Vision Direct survey found that a quarter of the 2,000 respondents find it harder to flirt with half their face covered, but all is not lost.
Dating coach and flirt expert Jean Smith said certain hand gestures and fiddling with your hair are great ways of showing someone how you feel while keeping socially distant.
‘Now that we find ourselves needing to wear masks,’ Jean said, ‘It might seem like flirting in person is a useless exercise.
‘But because our faces are hidden except for the eyes, they can be a very powerful tool if you know how to use them.
‘It might seem frustrating that we can only see a small part of someone’s face these days, but do not be disheartened.
‘The eyes are the most powerful source of attraction, which is why they have been the subject of numerous quotes and poems over the ages. My favourite is, “we try to hide our feelings, but we forgot that our eyes speak”.’
If you’re looking for tips on how to get your flirt on under the mask, Jean has put together 12 ways we can send the right signals.
Wink wink, nudge nudge (Picture: SWNS)
It might not be subtle, but the great thing about the wink is that there is no mistaking what it means. The wink is fun, flirty and conspiratorial.
The Mona Lisa smile
Jean says smiling under your mask is still worthwhile even though that part of your face is covered, because a grin can give you a ‘Mona Lisa smile’ in the eyes.
When we see someone to whom we are attracted our pupils naturally become bigger. While you can’t consciously control how big your pupils are this can help you flirt by giving you a clue as to when someone is interested you.
Baby doll eyes
Humans have evolved to be drawn to large eyes – for instance, part of why we find babies’ faces so adorable is because their eyes are disproportionately large. To make yourself look cuter, you can try and opening your eyes a little wider to make.
Not to be confused with the side-eye (Picture: SWNS)
A well-times side glance can be bit quirky, flirty, and give the impression that you have a secret that you just might share with the right person.
There are looks, and then there are looks. Don’t underestimate what the eyes can convey when it comes to intention, but be careful not to stare too hard – that could come across as creepy.
Clear eye contact
This might sound simple, but many people find it tricky. This is giving someone clear eye contact, to the point where they unmistakably know you are looking at them – but, again, be careful not to stare.
The up and down
This consists of gazing at the other person from head to toe as you move up and down with the eye, and is only to be used only when mutual attraction has already been established. It can then serve as a non-verbal compliment: ‘Oh, I see you and I like what I see!’
Watch out for raised eyebrows (Picture: SWNS)
The eyebrow raise makes a stronger statement than just eye contact alone. It acts as a question to the flirtee: ‘What do you think?’ or ‘How about it?’
Count to three
In order to convey interest and avoid any accidental staring, you can try holding eye contact for three seconds. Any longer and you might drift into creepy; any less and the other person might not notice.
Be careful not to just (Picture: SWNS)
Look away and look back
The full on stare down is not the way to go. However, the look and then look back is very powerful. It comes across as a double take, and shows that the flirtee was not mistaken, you were in fact checking them out.
Three is the magic number
To show interest, look at someone three times. If they’re into it, you will know by the third time. If they don’t return your look by the third glance, they’re not feeling it, and it’s time to cut your losses and move on.
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