Women have told so many stories of when men failed to flirt with them, saying the same cringy pick-up lines or just giving unwanted attention. At this point, many of the pick-up lines have just become jokes and you never know how to respond to them.
But after all, humans are creative and women gathered to tell stories of when a man’s flirting technique actually worked on them. Reddit user hungary70 asked “Girls of Reddit, what was the best flirting technique someone did to you?” and nearly 10k people answered. Bored Panda took the best responses and created a list for you to enjoy.
Don’t forget to upvote the flirting techniques that you would fall for too and share your experiences in the comments.
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We’d met previously and he was trying to get out of the friend zone quickly . I told him I was too busy to date. He offered to hang out with me while I plowed through a ton of errands including an oil change, getting gas, returning shoes, picking up cleaning, and blowing up balloons for a party. It was so nice to have support of me being me and me doing stuff and it was nice low key no pressure hanging out to get to know each other.
I was so busy that day I forgot to eat lunch and he got me a donut and coffee.
I married him.
it was my first day in middle school and this kid asked to see my planner, i handed it to him and he flipped to the contact section and left me his name and number. i’ll never forget how smooth he was
He said “I have a riddle for you” then he took my hand and traced a line down the middle of my palm. “This is a river. It is too wide to jump over, do deep to wade across, too fast to swim across, and too long to go around. There is a bunny stuck on one side of it. How does the bunny cross the river?”
After about 10 minutes of me trying to guess the answer I gave up and asked him how the bunny got across the river. He said “who cares? I just wanted to hold your hand!”
Just being genuinely nice. My boyfriend was too shy to flirt with me at first since were only friends, so he texted me saying I looked really nice that day after seeing me, and it was such a simple thing but it really made my day better. And that can let the person know you are interested in them. It doesn’t need to be a big scheme.
I once had a guy walk up to me at a bar and said, “hello, my name is Rob and I’ll be hitting on you tonight; what can I get you to drink”. Silly, playful, and direct. We dated for about eight months.
Edit: For anyone wanting to use this line, he said it in a playful way with a huge smile. 😊
I was walking on my university campus, tripped and dropped my books. (Heeled sandals, raised sidewalk) He asked me if I was ok, and picked up my books. He then carried my books and walked me to class. We chatted the entire walk, and when we got to my class, he asked for my phone number. I tore off a piece of paper, and wrote it, but without my name. I wanted to see if he was listening when I told him. He listened.
We’ve been married over 20 years. He makes me smile every day.
He brought me a huge tub of my favourite ice cream flavour after hearing that I was having a bad day.
I started dating the university’s lone wolf and was extremely surprised to find how incorrigible a flirt he was. But he didn’t speak my native language, he was not from my state and my parents wouldn’t have approved of our relationship.
When I told him I didn’t want to lead him on, he said we would try our best and if it didn’t work out he would take full responsibility for his broken heart and that I need not feel pressured. The feeling of liberation I felt cinched the deal for me. Looking back I am strangely touched by how he, an introvert, had allowed himself to be openly vulnerable in front of me.
After 7 years of a solid relationship (which included 3 years of wearing my parents down to accept him), we got married a couple of months ago.
We were classmates in college and one morning, I called him on my way to school (I lived over an hour away and we usually called and chatted while I drove) and complained about a headache. When I got to school, he was there with ibuprofen, water, and one of those yogurt parfait thingies.
I also made a comment once about my eyeliner running out, and he brought one to school the next day. Found out from his brother after we started dating that he had spent like an hour at the store asking the makeup employees for the right one since he had no idea what an eyeliner pen was. We’ve been married for four years now and he’s still a total sweetheart
Edit: To clarify to those saying this could be creepy behavior, it definitely could in a different situation. I don’t recommend doing this with someone you don’t have a good base with. If you like to do nice things for people, don’t make it seem like you expect anything in return.
We already had a pretty solid friendship and he was (and still is) honestly the best friend I’d ever had. He never made any advances on me or put any pressure on our relationship. I used to wonder if he was just nice or if he actually liked me, that’s how good he was at being chill! I ended up confessing my feelings to him a few months later. I come from an abusive family, so having him be there for me, listen to me, respect my boundaries, etc was mind-blowing. He’s been a great partner and I’m very thankful for people like him
I don’t know if it’s the best but it’s definitely the most memorable.
I was at the gym and had been honestly taking things to the extreme for a while and not listening to my body… I suddenly got very dizzy and my sight became white. On the realization that I was about to pass out, I slowly lowered myself down to the floor.
One of the guys working out came swooping in to grab me and prevent my head from hitting the floor. He lay me down and tried to get me to remain conscious, asking me all sorts of questions that required some concentration like what day of the week it is and who is the president.
When he saw that I was okay and recovering, his questions started getting flirty. What’s my name, what’s my number, now that he’s become my knight in shining armor, can he take me out on a date sometime.
It really made me laugh and feel better just by him being so light-hearted about it. He got my number.
I was playing my 3DS on the train and a guy sat across from me, said “Excuse me, can I ask what you’re playing?” and we struck up a conversation. I was so engaged that I almost missed my stop. Afterwards we would sit and talk on our way home and he started gifting me books from his work. That’s when I asked him out!
Edit: The game was Animal Crossing: New Leaf, my go-to game to wind down after a long day. When I asked him out, he said yes! But after a few dates, we parted amicably. Sorry, no love story here!
I met my (now) husband while I was in the hospital … He worked there and I was a frequent patient unfortunately. Anyway, he would bring daffodils to my room. Or apple juice. He “snuck” me extra warm blankets and would sit with me before/after his shift. When I got out, he offered to get groceries and wash my hair. All of it just as a friend. He knew I wasn’t interested in dating while going through everything and so he was just THERE. Turns out I happened to like him THERE and we are celebrating our 12th anniversary this year.
Years and years ago I worked at florist where the owner illegally hired mostly Mexican girls in the states to learn English(they went to school, but worked for a rate that wasnt even minimum wage). It was super shady, but I loved working with them. We would make up little games to teach me Spanish/them English. Anyway, this Latin guy comes in one day and one of the girls is helping him. He wants to get a bouquet for a girl he likes, so she takes him around the store, showing him what she thinks are the best flowers. She wraps it all up for him and right as he pays, he writes his number on the paper and hand them to her! I was floored, it was so smooth. She was completely unfazed, like oh thats how men are like where Im from, men dont do that here? I was like, uh nope.
We met at a Halloween house party and when I was going to leave he walked me to the room with all the coats which also happened to be a kids room and he asked me “what color crayon would you like to write your phone number with?” I married him. Celebrated 20 years.
Not me but my mum. My mum and dad were set up by a friend of theirs. My mum is completely deaf, upon being told this before he met her my dad went out and learnt as much sign language as he could before he met her…. my mum doesn’t know sign language… adorable and hilarious
“Hey do you want to help me throw fruit at my friends?” – 16 year old boy at summer camp, holding a bunch of oranges, who wanted to meet me. I was also 16 at the time.
We walked home together all the time from school and he would do something cute/funny/caring to make sure i was on the inside of the sidewalk when we were together, like he would twirl me around and guide me to the inside or tickle my side and jokingly push me to the inside of the sidewalk. I guess not a typical flirt move but considering 99% of the I was walking to get anywhere him wanting me to be safe when we were together was so sweet. We are not together and have never dated but that still is one of the top things on my list of sweet moments. Even in school he’d walk on the outside cuz I always got shoulder checked by people passing by.
Last year of college for us. He’d show up after my classes and follow me around everywhere, talking incessantly. When he’d see me on campus he’d run over to say hi.
I would flirt by sometimes picking a little wildflower to give to him when I saw him next that day. He’d wear it in his shirt or behind his ear. We now have 2 sons and he’s taught the older one (younger is a baby) to give me little wildflowers when we’re out walking together. 😀
In college, my best friend was this guy that I had a flirty friendship with, but we were both dating other people. We lived in the same buildings as each other freshman – junior year, and spent a lot of time together but again, we were with other people.
Freshman year we were watching a movie together and this couple had an epic kiss in the rain, and I offhandedly mentioned I thought it was so romantic. Senior year rolls around and we’re both finally single. We were walking home from a party, it started raining and he just kinda grabbed me and kissed me, and mentioned he thought about what I said any time it rained. We had a very intense relationship for about a year and then it kind of ended in disaster and we haven’t spoken since lol
tl;dr – pay attention to the little details and things the person you’re into likes. Show them you care about them by listening!
We were walking quietly at night and he stopped, looked me in they eyes, and said “i think you just broke my writers block”
Not sure if it was a “technique” (it seemed genuine; when we parted ways he went home and wrote the first song he’d written in months). Buuut it was super hot and i melted when he said it.
Was riding home with the friends group back in 2008. We stopped to drop off the one guy, and I got out to stretch. I mentioned that the stars were so much more visible up there in the mountains and he said, “Yeah, they’re really pretty. Wish I had someone to watch em with.”
I’m a sucker for corny guys. We got married the next year and are celebrating 12 years this June.
I like sunsets – they’re kind of my thing. I photograph them, have sold calendars about them. I just like sunsets. Anyway… I was participating in a medical study, and we were sequestered to our room for 14 days. The guy I liked would send me pictures of the sunset each night, because he didn’t want me to miss any.
Edit: To those saying “Marry Him”…. I did… and I’d be lying if I said it wasn’t a big reason why I did.
I didnt say that in my post because it turned out to be a very verbally and emotionally abusive relationship, and I left him in December. I didn’t want to turn a beautiful thing into something sad and negative. I don’t want to discourage anyone from falling for the sweet gestures. They aren’t always attached to a manipulator.
I’m sorry the update isn’t entirely the happy one you wanted to hear. Believe me, it’s not the one I want to be posting.
My first boyfriend came into the store where I was working and just straight up told me he had seen me through the window and needed to run home to clean up/put on something nice so he could come back and ask me on a date. It was super endearing 🙂
Edit to add: he didn’t WATCH me through the window lol, just saw me in passing and wanted to ask me out. This was well before dating apps where you basically had to ask in person. He was within my age range, nice smile and just had a good energy.
Also his secondary flirting technique worked just as well, he brought me a book on our second date because I had mentioned in passing that I loved to read 🙂 he was good at making me feel heard.
As a person with zero game who is also quite oblivious- being direct is hot and clear communication and doing it with confidence works the best 🙂
But also one time someone asked me “if you were a pirate would you keep your parrot on this shoulder or this shoulder” putting his arm around me to touch the furthest shoulder. Tbh it actually turned me on even though it was extremely stupid.
Edit: Okay y’all to be clear I don’t condone touching a stranger or anyone without their consent unless you understand the parameters of your relationship already…this person was my friend and we were vibing lol.
first time i hung out at my current bfs house before we started dating. we were laying on the floor listening to records and he turned to ask me what time it was, i think it was four if i remember. he then said “wow you’ve been here 4 hours and i haven’t kissed you yet?” still makes me smile, and needless to say, it worked very well.
When I was 10 I received a love letter from a boy. It contained a flower inside, and at the bottom of the letter he wrote some cheat codes for Mortal Kombat for me. He knew I was always playing that game on my Sega.
I was in Chicago on business, got a horrible migraine, and had to cancel a meeting with a man I had met with (for work) the day before. I get really bad migraines, really, really bad. After it was over I had to get a bit of food and something to drink, but it was very late and there was no way I would survive any kind of car/cab ride. He was the only person I knew in town, so I sent him a text to see if he knew of anything in my area that would be safe/open that late within walking distance. He drove 30 min across town in the middle of the night to walk me to a 24hr restaurant and buy me dinner. I’ve been with him for 11 years now.
Just be open and honest, try to talk to me like I’m a human being instead of a conquest
He said “i caught feelings for you” and i looked at him confused, but blushing He showed me my screen and that he had caught a Pokémon for me and gave it the nickname “feelings”
We are married and have 2 kids now
Took genuine time to get to know me, and bought me a few gifts based on interests he’d asked me about before. I was less amazed by the gifts, and more amazed that he’d cared enough to remember what I actually liked. I’d found most guys wouldn’t listen, and would just buy me generic stuff like jewellery or chocolates if they wanted to gift me something, which was very nice, but not for me. So when he surprised me with gaming merchandise I was thrilled! Guys, spend those months properly getting to know her!
I’m British, and I came over to the States on a temporary work visa, to do “one” ski season with Vail Resorts. I was bartending at an on mountain restaurant, and a couple of snowboarders come in and start talking to me. It came up that I was only there for the season, then one of them says “I’ll marry you so you can stay… but we have to go on a date first”.
… we just celebrated our 13 year anniversary, and I’m still in Colorado.
He bought me a giant bag of beef jerky
A few years later he was tossing pebbles at my dorm window with another bag of beef jerky and roses. He was a great boyfriend.
Ended up being a s****y husband though. Will always be in love with the person he was before that, however.
not trying to flirt with me and sending me memes instead. we’re still together and I couldn’t love him more