DEAR DEIDRE: MY girlfriend is getting fed up with me in bed because I last too long.
We’ve been together for 18 months and I moved in with her last year.
I don’t climax for an hour, by which time she has reached orgasm at least twice and has had enoughCredit: Alamy
She is 26 while I’m 28. She is clever, has a great job, is independent and always good fun.
Everything is going really well – except she has started to get upset with me for dragging out sex.
I don’t climax for an hour, by which time she has reached orgasm at least twice and has had enough.
She interprets this as me not finding her sexy enough, which isn’t true at all. I think she’s absolutely stunning.
I’ve tried everything – thinking of her in an arousing way well before we start having sex, lots of foreplay or hardly any foreplay.
But nothing seems to make a difference.
If I tell friends, they think I’m joking and say I shouldn’t be complaining.
But this is starting to become a real problem for me.
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DEIDRE SAYS: It will help both of you to read my support pack Find It Hard To Climax?.
This is an issue that affects some older men but you are still young.
If you are a big smoker or drinker, this can affect your performance.
Also, watching a lot of porn can dull the senses when it comes to real-life sex, making it harder to climax.
Discuss the issue calmly together and build up trust.
You can overcome this problem if you talk openly and honestly.
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