FOR simply over two years, Katie Blackmer lived along with her ex-husband Stephen Shepard and their youngsters.
In addition they shared a home with Katie’s new husband Ben, Stephen’s girlfriend Brandy, 32, and her youngsters Kayleigh, 11, and Jaxson, 9.
Ben, Katie, Hunter, Brandy and Stephen (again row) with their shared youngsters
Ben’s son Hunter, 20, lived down the street and collectively, as Fabulous exclusively revealed earlier this 12 months, their distinctive dwelling preparations labored.
However now, they’ve split-up and so they all dwell in separate homes. But they nonetheless see one another on daily basis and eat meals collectively.
Right here Katie, 32, shares their story replace with Fabulous…
This festive season is a bit of completely different for our households.
The blended household spent Christmas collectively this 12 monthsCredit score: Sunsational Tales
In June, after greater than two years of dwelling collectively, our blended households went their separate methods.
It was inevitable. As the youngsters have been getting larger, they wanted extra space and initially, we seemed for a a lot larger home to dwell in collectively.
Sadly, massive 10-bedroom homes are some huge cash right here in Tennessee the place we dwell, so we did the subsequent smartest thing – we seemed for homes shut to one another.
I do know individuals in all probability suppose that the actual fact we’re so shut may be very unusual.
After I divorced Stephen after which married Ben in 2016, my relationship with my ex couldn’t have been a lot worse.
There have been so many presents on Christmas day that the youngsters received muddled upCredit score: Sunsational Tales
Katie along with her ex Stephen Credit score: SUNSENATIONAL STORIES
We have been terrible to one another and Stephen was jealous of Ben, however once we noticed that it was affecting our children Gracelyn, now 12, Kaylynn, 11 and Colston, six, we agreed that we needed to at the least be civil.
Then in Might 2017, Stephen nearly died in an horrific automobile accident that killed his brother Michael and left him with terrible accidents.
I do know individuals in all probability suppose that the actual fact we’re so shut may be very unusual – but it surely’s vital to us the kids nonetheless really feel we’re one massive household
He got here to dwell with me and Ben whereas he recuperated and he by no means left. It was probably the most pure factor on the planet to take care of him and by this time, him and Ben have been buddies.
When he began relationship his girlfriend Brandy, she and her youngsters Kayleigh, 11 and Jaxson, 9, moved in too and we have been a giant completely happy household.
However in June, in the course of the Covid epidemic, we moved into separate homes to make extra space for the youngsters, however we selected rigorously in order that we have been nonetheless very shut.
Ben homeschooled the youngsters throughout the pandemic Credit score: SUNSENATIONAL STORIES
It was vital to us that the kids nonetheless felt that we have been one massive household, so we purchased homes simply minutes from one another. Even Hunter has a home not far.
At first it was fairly annoying for the youngsters as a result of they have been so used to being collectively on a regular basis, so we have been anxious to ensure they knew that in actuality, we have been nonetheless one massive household.
Day-after-day, we eat dinner collectively at a distinct particular person’s home, and we share the cooking similar to we did earlier than. There’s not a day goes by once we don’t see one another.
Generally the youngsters keep at my home, different instances at Stephen’s home or Brandy’s.
Sadly, they split-up over summer time so Brandy did get her personal home, though we nonetheless see her on daily basis as if nothing’s actually modified.
Gracelynn, Kaylynn, Brandy, Jaxson and Kayleigh collectively within the kitchenCredit score: SUNSENATIONAL STORIES
We had quite a lot of enjoyable organising Christmas. The children stayed over at Stephen’s home and at 6am on Christmas Day, me, Ben and Brandy went to the home to open presents.
With so many people opening presents, it was a loopy free for all.
There was a sea of wrapping paper in every single place and in all of the chaos, a few of the youngsters received the mistaken presents. Colston opened make-up and a hair-brush, however he was good about it!
After all, there was a little bit of bickering with so many individuals however fortunately, no full-blown rows this 12 months
I feel the worst factor was that we nonetheless rationed everybody to 2 sheets of bathroom paper as with the continued Covid pandemic rest room paper remains to be exhausting to search out!
After an enormous buffet fashion breakfast, we went to have Christmas dinner at Stephen’s mother Kathy’s home. I feel there have been about 25 individuals there for that, so we needed to have shifts for dinner.
Katie says the household would not cope in the event that they did not see one another on daily basisCredit score: Sunsational Tales
The children received a bit argumentative ready for dinner, so Kathy made us devilled eggs to maintain them going! That evening the youngsters went again to Stephen’s home to remain collectively.
This New 12 months’s Eve would be the similar, we are going to go to Stephen’s home for dinner, video games and fireworks at midnight – to be trustworthy, there’s no method any of us would wish to be with anybody else.
I do know some individuals may marvel how this association can work, however our children know that they’ve actually have two units of fogeys who love them very a lot – it doesn’t matter if they’re organic or not.
Us adults have been anxious to be sure that all of us have a presence within the youngsters’ lives and as we dwell just a few minutes from one another, we are able to obtain this. Even Hunter comes for dinner each evening.
We’re praying that Stephen and Brandy will get again collectively once more and I’m hopeful that that is only a break. She is considered one of my finest buddies and my youngsters adore her, so I’m grateful we nonetheless see her on daily basis.
It doesn’t matter what, we’re all nonetheless a household and we love one another deeply – we don’t should dwell in the identical home to be as shut as we’re.
I don’t suppose any of us might cope if we didn’t see one another on daily basis!
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