WATCHING the stars in the Friends reunion, I was really struck by one thing – how amazing the women looked.
Courteney Cox, Jennifer Aniston and Lisa Kudrow all seem like they are in the prime of their life. Sorted, sophisticated, elegant and in the best shape.
Female, fifty and fabulous, Friends stars are still in their primeCredit: ©2021 WarnerMedia Direct, LLC. All Rights Reserved. HBO Max™ is used under license.
It got me thinking how lucky we are there are so many brilliant role models of inspiring women over the age of 50.
When I was growing up, I remember my mum telling me when you get to 50 you become invisible. Looking around, it was very easy to see what she meant.
Back then, the focus on women and the value placed on them centred entirely on their looks.
They were prized for their youth. Strength, experience, character and wisdom counted for nothing and women over the age of 50 were expected to slowly head away into the sidelines of life.
Meanwhile, many men routinely traded in the older model for a newer one, dated younger women and went on to have second families without another thought.
Men got more distinguished and women just got old.
There has never been a better time to be a 50-year-old womanCredit: HBO Max
The very notion of women past child-bearing age being seen as desirable and sexy, or the idea they might even be coming into their own, rather than slowly fading away, was laughable.
Historically, beauty is tied to youth and for decades the two were inseparable.
But fast forward to 2021 and I can honestly say that there has never been a better time to be a 50-year-old woman.
I’m not just talking about the fact that, these days, we can still become mothers at 50 like Naomi Campbell, as I wrote about last week.
But many women see this decade as the most exciting, the time when they know who they are, what they are about and what they want to do.
They are solvent and sorted. Their kids, if they have them, are old enough for them to spend time on their own hopes and dreams — and on their wellbeing.
And partly as a result, women in their fifties can be as sexy, or even more so, than when they were younger.
No wonder a recent survey found that women aged 50 to 65 are happier with their age, relationship and confidence than those in their twenties.
Thanks to more education about nutrition and exercise, women are eating well, exercising and looking after themselves.
Jennifer Lopez is another amazing woman in her 50sCredit: Getty
They — we — have reclaimed the right to be sexy and fabulous at any age.
That focus on health and strength and not being told what to wear (by men) has liberated us. Gone are the days when we wore our hair in curlers to bed, had a blue rinse and walked about in a house coat as was expected once we hit 50.
When was the last time you heard a woman being referred to as “mutton dressed as lamb”?
Those words used to routinely be used to put older women down by telling them what to wear and how to act.
Amanda Holden always looks incredible and she has just turned 50Credit: Getty
It’s a way of putting a woman who has dared to wear what she likes firmly back into her box. It implies that only young women are allowed to dress how they please. Ridiculous.
People do not use that phrase any more because women can wear what they damn well please at any age.
Just look at the role models we are surrounded by. Jennifer Lopez, Courteney Cox, Sandra Bullock, Jennifer Aniston and Cate Blanchett are all rocking their fifties.
Closer to home, we have Davina McCall, Susanna Reid, Amanda Holden. I could go on and on and on.
I know I write a lot about inequalities between the genders and we still have a way to go. But it is also important to sit back and celebrate progress when it has been made.
There has been a sea change over the past couple of decades.
Increasingly, women are taking centre stage, being independent and using their voice.
Gone are the days when women were told by men to stay at home in their dressing gown and slippers when they turned 50. Watch out world.
Women are doing what they please and when they want.
And it’s bloody brilliant.
Who would want to employ disloyal Dom?
WHEN looking for a new job, some people worry about cleaning up their past tweets and social media posts.
They fear that future employers will uncover something foolish, unsavoury or otherwise un- appealing they have said or done.
I think Dominic Cummings has got a more challenging situation on his hands when it comes to ever finding anyone else willing to employ him again.
Given the detail he went into when covering his tenure working with Boris Johnson – exploding “truth bombs” about what was really happening when they were a team – would you want to work with someone who is willing to do that?
I certainly would not, especially as his former boss, the Prime Minister, stuck by him when he went for a his day out at Barnard Castle (to check his eyesight after visiting his father!).
And it poses the question: If lockdown needed to be sooner to stop an escalating crisis, as Cummings claims, why did he break quarantine rules himself?
HUGE congratulations to Danielle Lloyd who is expecting her fifth child, a sibling to her four sons who are aged between ten and three.
But, blimey, what a handful. She recently said in an interview: “I can’t wait to become a family of seven. I know there’s a risk it’ll be another boy, though . . .”
Danielle Lloyd is desperate to have a baby girlCredit: James Watkins
She added that she would keep trying until she has a girl. Using the word “risk” to describe the possibility of having another boy makes me feel sad.
And I cannot help but wonder how any of her boys will feel reading it too, knowing that they were just a means to the end of her mission to have a girl.
For a start, she may have a girl and they might all fight like cats and dogs.
You never know who is coming to join your family, and that is part of the joy of it.
Having a girl is not the priority but having a healthy baby is. It’s interesting that, anecdotally at least, most men want boys and most women want girls.
I guess it’s nice to have one of each but after five tries, isn’t it time to stop and give thanks for what you have got?
LOVE the pictures of the ever-fabulous Dame Joan Collins in her bombshell blonde.
Joan always looks a million dollars and about half her age.
Dame Joan Collins always looks like a million dollars
Her fabulous hair is often the reason for that, although she makes no secret of the fact she favours wigs and even has her own range.
It calls to mind that line from Dolly Parton, another wig lover, when asked how long it takes to do her hair.
She replied: “I don’t know . . . as I’m never there.”
AFTER the judge in the Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie custody case “refused to hear the minor teenagers” testify to their wishes about their “custody fate”, Angelina said she was being denied a fair trial and attempted to have him disqualified.
Divorce is hard enough on kids as it is, without asking them to go to court and give ‘evidence’ about their parentsCredit: AP:Associated Press
Jolie and Pitt are parents to six kids, five of them minors: Maddox, 19, Pax, 17, Zahara, 16, Shiloh, 14 and twins Vivienne and Knox, 12.
The case resulted in them being awarded shared custody. But I think the judge was quite right not to let the teenagers testify.
Divorce is hard enough on kids as it is, without asking them to go to court and give “evidence” about their parents.
What could be more divisive and difficult for them?
It is too much pressure on young children and no parent should ask their kids to do this.
Even in divorce you have to put your children first. This just seemed like a “revenge” move to me.
ANOTHER day, another cosmetic surgery addict who seems to have lost the plot.
Anastasia Pokreshchuk, 32, from Ukraine, claims to have the “world’s biggest cheeks”.
Doctors should stop indulging this cosmetic surgery addictCredit: Instagram /_just__queen_
She has spent more than £1,600 on administering her own face injections and claims she looked like a “mouse” before her drastic cheek fillers.
She injects herself with hyaluronic fillers following the instruction of a doctor’s online tutorial.
She admits it “can be dangerous”, but says she loves having filler and won’t be stopping any time soon.I really do try to live and let live.
But this woman has serious issues – and doctors need to stop enabling her.
I LOVED seeing photos of the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge having a land yacht race in St Andrews this week.
Back in the town where they met at university 20 years ago, Kate and William looked like they were having a right laugh together, which is probably the secret to any happy relationship.
Time and again, I’m struck by what a great couple they are, with such a sense of fun and still laughing after two decades.
It just goes to show what can happen when you get a good match and you have common interests.